Sexy Mama Take #3 - Quickies versus Special nights: scheduling sex

 First of all, I never thought I would have to schedule sex.  I thought it would come back right away after our son was born.  I had heard tell of couples who didn't have sex for (gasp!) 4 months after the baby was born and I was sure we would never be one of them.  My partner Ken and I would be back to sex after a few weeks, tops.

It took us seven months.

Well, we had one afternoon of touching and orgasms at about five months, which reassured us that my equipment still worked.  But I was too scared to have intercourse.  Until finally I couldn't believe that it had been seven months and I just said to him one day after the three of us came home from afternoon stroll and Felix was still asleep in his stroller, "How about we take the chance he stays asleep and actually have sex?"

And now, we schedule sometimes and enjoy quickies.  We had a quickie this morning, our son was up late so I knew he'd sleep in a  little this morning.  I woke up and woke Ken up slowly.  Afterwards, we heard noise coming from his room, and realized our door was open.  I panicked and thought he'd woken up and seen us and then gone back to his room to play.  A few held breaths later, we realized it was just him turning in his sleep.  

We have occasionally hired a babysitter for special night out, and more than once planned special nights in, after the little one has gone to sleep.

We even dropped our son off for an overnight at friends (who were not exactly dying to have an almost two-year-old stay over-- they were newly engaged and I'm afraid we terrified them) and we got a last minute deal on a four star hotel room and had awesome hotel sex over and over and over until check out.  

And now, since I'm pregnant, I'm starting to plan for some sex adventures, knowing that come November, I'll be in time out for a little awhile.